When children are growing up, if they get bad grades or often do something wrong, many parents will teach their children a lesson, often reducing them to nothing. This actually destroys the child instead of helping him or her. Look at the following 7 ways are not all done to the child?
1, and the child when talking to the tone of voice can never be kind, gentle
Never use the tone of discussion, it is best to let the volume of 70 decibels or more, and use a commanding tone. If you can also with some sarcastic, ironic word combination, it will be more effective.
2、Take all the anger to the children
Work encountered a bad thing, no matter what is home to “attribute” is the child’s fault and then teach him, and stop him from tears. This can be an effective blow to the child’s self-esteem, enhance the child’s sense of inferiority, can also cause him not a person’s feeling.
3、Make the child feel that he can’t do anything and no one appreciates him
For example: homework is not good, does not look good, will not do housework, sloppy, careless, and even let his family be dragged down by him …… In short, he is what can not, what will not.
4, often take more than his “great” people to stimulate his
The simplest thing is like this words to often hang in the mouth: “You see people so-and-so, never let parents worry! This kind of words have the most ways to hit and destroy the child, can be said to be the classic record of the destruction of the child.
5, the child’s everything to be decided by you
Never give him a little freedom, all his activities you have to pay close attention. If there is a diary, you must find a way to peek at it. Doing so can create in his heart the feeling that he is not a human being, and create the feeling that he is a puppet to be manipulated. A person who suspects that he is not a human being is never likely to rise to the occasion.
6. Parents portray themselves as family victims.
Doing this creates a sense of guilt in the child. And a guilty person is often prone to resort to self-loathing to get through life. Specific methods are as follows: “Often tell the child, since he has, you do not have their own time, always have to worry about him, are tired out of the disease, it is best to be specific about which disease you are due to him. Or you can also say, if not to take care of him, they have long been in the cause of great development.”
7. Making a fool of your child in public
As long as you are in front of outsiders (or classmates or relatives or friends or neighbors) to damage him, to degrade him, so that he has no place to go, from a psychological point of view, so that this can make a person to produce fear of society and the idea of self-shame. And a person who is afraid of society and ashamed of himself is very difficult to be based on society.
Parents teach their children their starting point is often for the sake of the child’s good, so that the child to get ahead, but the education method is not the right way, the result is not only can not help the child and the child’s self-confidence caused by the devastating blow, I hope that parents think about it ~!
