Speaking of children’s personalities, some are naturally cheerful and confident, so parents may misunderstand that children with inferiority are born with personalities. In fact, children’s sense of inferiority is not innate, but is caused by the educational methods of adults. If school teachers and parents deny their children, and their self-esteem and self-confidence are frustrated, they will easily feel inferior and think that they can’t do anything well. Even some parents “hate iron to produce steel” and pick and choose their children’s behaviors. This should be strengthened and that should be worked hard without any praise. This unfair evaluation will also make children feel more and more inferior in their thoughts. If your child shows some inferiority complex, don’t criticize yourself or give up the child first, because there are ways to solve it. First of all, it is necessary to distinguish which reason is caused.
“Rome wasn’t built in a day”, as this sentence says, children’s sense of inferiority is not formed in a day. Therefore, it is not without process to overcome it. Parents should never be too hasty. They should give their children some time, have confidence, perseverance and be patient. So how should the child’s inferiority complex be treated? There are eight main points below.
First, change the image
Children with psychological inferiority usually speak hesitatingly and walk crinkly. From these characteristics, they can slowly change their explicit attitude.
Second, language suggestion
Positive language can make people have positive thoughts, and then change negative mentality. Therefore, parents can usually use “You are smart, you can do it!” This kind of words will cheer up the child and make him full of confidence in himself.
Third, rehearsal victory
When children encounter difficulties and flinch from challenges, parents can ask them to imagine their sense of accomplishment when completing tasks in their minds. This feeling similar to daydreaming is a great help to children with inferiority complex.
Fourth, give play to your expertise
To eliminate children’s sense of inferiority, the most important thing is to let them find themselves useful, so it is very important to find their strengths and advantages. Because children with inferiority can’t see and don’t think they are talented, but this is definitely not true. After discovering his talents, of course, it is necessary to create opportunities and conditions to give full play to his talents!
V. Success in saving.
To eliminate their inner self-confidence, we must let him live a successful experience. Set up a success file for him, even if it is a very small success in the relay race of the school sports meeting, every little makes a mickle. This feeling of revisiting success can make him more confident.
Six, wash the shadows
The shadow of failure is a hotbed of inferiority, and washing the shadow of failure in time is an important key to overcome inferiority and maintain self-confidence. The practice is that in the experience of failure, parents should play the role of teachers, so that children can learn and learn lessons in failure. In addition, it is to cover the failed experience with the successful experience.
Seven, reverse comparison
Although this method is not perfect, for children with the mentality of “envy others’ strengths and shame themselves’ weaknesses”, reverse comparison is adopted; Choosing the shortcomings of others as the object of comparison may achieve the effect of psychological balance. But this method is easy to cultivate children’s arrogant mentality, so try it carefully.
Eight, reduce the pursuit
The situation of some children who lack self-confidence is that they think they are too backward and have too ambitious goals, so they are timid. Instead of forcing children to follow up, it is better to lower the standard appropriately, so that the lofty goal can be broken down into several small goals, which is easier to achieve, and children can also have a sense of accomplishment and make progress faster.
Parents educate their children just like excellent teachers in schools educate their students. “Teaching students in accordance with their aptitude” is the most important thing, so the above points should be decided according to their personality and state!
