An educated child is very understanding, that is to say, no matter at home or out of the house, the child can be friendly with other people, will not cause trouble to others. However, when your child is blamed by others for being “uneducated”, how should we as parents educate them in time? This article may bring you some inspiration.
Imagine this situation, if your child pressed all the floors of the elevator, affecting the other passengers and was scolded, as a parent, what would you do? This embarrassing incident really happened to Chickie’s mom and Chickie. On this day, 7-year-old Qiqi was riding the elevator on a whim, so he pressed down on all floors.
In fact, Qiqi originally wanted to use this prank to make his mother happy, but did not expect to get in return is actually the other passengers in the elevator constantly scolding:
“This kid, why is he so uneducated!”
“Right! I have to rush home to cook dinner, aren’t you wasting my time?”
“Obviously nothing is wrong, how can you press the elevator indiscriminately? Really!”
“Kids nowadays are really getting more and more annoying, I met one last time too, so angry!”
Qiqi was shocked by the sudden situation, his face turned red, he didn’t know that his small action would attract so many scoldings, finally his head was getting lower and lower, tears were coming out of his eyes.
Mom looked at her child’s heart hurt, so she put her arm around the child’s shoulder and said sincerely, “I’m really sorry, my child is not uneducated, he’s just a bit naughty. He knows he’s wrong now, right? Qiqi, apologize to the uncles and aunts.” Qiqi raised his head and said shamefully, “I’m sorry ……”
Then mom took advantage of the situation and said, “Qiqi, later on, when the elevator stops at which floor, you have to report which floor has arrived, and seriously say, ‘Trouble to everyone’.” Qiqi quickly nodded his head to ease his embarrassment.
Sure enough, when the elevator arrived at each floor, the boy dutifully announced the floor for everyone, and also added a thoughtful “Trouble to you all”. The childish voice resounded in the elevator, as if it was an apology.
Everyone was a bit surprised, and their frowns slowly relaxed. Finally, someone even said, “It’s okay, no need to make such a big deal out of it.” Qiqi’s mom, however, just said lightly, “It’s okay, let the child correct his mistakes, he will remember more deeply.”
Slowly, when the passengers in the elevator went out one after another, they would instead turn around and smile and say to Qiqi, “Thank you!” Slowly, the smile on the child’s face returned. Since then, Qiqi no longer presses the elevator indiscriminately, and when he encounters children shouting and screaming in the elevator, he will stop them in a very “righteous” way: “Shhh! Be quiet in the elevator.”
As you can imagine, it is because of the mom’s small gestures, to eliminate the child’s embarrassment, to protect the child’s self-esteem. In fact, teaching your children to be nurturing in life will often reap rewards in the form of a life of character that they can be more proud of than their accomplishments. These excellent behavioral habits will stay with your child for the rest of his life and help him integrate into society.
If your child has any of the following bad habits, then mom and dad should pay attention:
Scenario 1: Unruly when playing with friends, either grabbing other people’s things or pushing other children.
Scenario 2, when eating, regardless of other people, always pick their favorite dishes, to the plate to clip a lot.
Situation 3: As a child, he always asks everyone to do things for him and makes a fuss whenever he is not satisfied.
Situation 4: He is not willing to listen to his elders when he is unhappy, and he likes to drop things.
Situation 5, I do not know where to learn the dirty words, not paying attention to speak out, all kinds of modeling.
When the child is not really set, the mother and father should timely train the child to become an educated person. In the child’s developmental stage, parenting is often associated with the child’s social skills, that is to say, “whether at home or out of the house, the child can be friendly with other people a series of behaviors, such as polite, do not disturb others, listen carefully, ask permission, learn to wait, accept rejection, share, etc.”, all of these Need mom and dad implicitly cultivate children.
First, parents should lead by example
An educated mom or dad can teach an educated child. Do not do rude things in front of the child, easy to leave a bad model for the child. The important part of teaching by word and example is the part of teaching by example. It also indicates that even the best words are not as influential as physical education. So if you want your child to be popular, the parents themselves need to be educated, otherwise how are they going to convince their children?
Second, try not to excuse the child, positive education
When your child is accused of doing something wrong, please do not feel free to excuse your child. When you speak as a parent, you may want to take the mood of both sides into account, and more importantly, let the child learn to admit their mistakes and develop a correct sense of right and wrong. Some parents used to use “he is still a child” and so on to protect the child, the results of the child but more and more rebellious, but not loved.
Third, teach children basic etiquette
Because the child is still small, so parents are more because of the child to teach basic etiquette, slowly strengthen his good ideas, good habits. You can teach your child only one social skill at a time, and let him or her concentrate on using it. For example, say hello, thank you, I’m sorry …… these simple sentences, say more, the child will naturally grow into a modest, polite people. Mom and dad do not begrudge your eyes of affirmation, praise your child when he does right, when the child does not do well, guide him in a timely manner.
Fourth, caution your child not to disturb others
Please let your child know that it is very rude to make a fuss in public. Mothers and fathers should constantly tell their children this idea, such as before leaving the door first agreed with the child, after leaving the door if the child is too noisy, must stop him in time, and make it clear to him, do so what bad influence. Never indulge the child, because bystanders often from the child’s behavior to conclude that “it must be the parents of bad parenting”, which in fact is more of an embarrassment to the parents.
Fifth, let the child make friends with polite peers
Parenting is mainly manifested in human interaction, so it is necessary to help him find friends of similar age. Children are very easy to influence each other, they will slowly learn how to get along with others, how to share, how to take responsibility. This will greatly reduce the burden of parenting.
An educated child may be just a small step away from you! Please be more patient with your children, as you and your children taste success and progress, you will surely find that teaching your children good social skills will make you hopeful for their future, give you great relief and satisfaction, and make you the most important teacher for your children. Remember, teaching your child is not only a responsibility, but also an opportunity to experience surprise and fulfillment over and over again!
