Every parent wants his child to be a dragon. Even though he often talks about “it’s good for his child to be healthy”, there is still a desire in his heart to hope that his child will be better than that of his neighbors or relatives.
If you are a parent today and expect your child to get ahead, please read the following carefully! This will have a key impact on your child’s future!
Do you face the following three biggest headaches for your parents?
You expect your children to study hard so that they can have a good future. But his class status is always like our network, sometimes slow, sometimes connected, sometimes disconnected. ……
Whether it’s homework or grades, it’s heroic. When others ask about children’s grades, you are always difficult to say, and you can only vaguely take it;
You aim to train your child to be the second Lindane. You hired the best coach to teach him, but in the competition, he was always the first to be brushed off because of his lack of height and physical fitness.
Because he devoted all his energy to training, his academic performance was not ideal. In the case that both ends fail to reach the shore, you begin to feel confused about his future;
You want your children to have good social skills, so you often encourage them to take part in more extracurricular activities.
But in fact, he would rather hide at home and meet his friends to play online games, stay in bed and chat with friends than go out, and become an out-and-out otaku, which makes you worry.
If you don’t have such a problem? Then congratulations!
Your children must be excellent, and the next content may have nothing to do with you, so you don’t have to waste any time reading.
However, if you see this, you will feel pricked in your heart, because this is simply talking about your children! Don’t get me wrong, I’m really not talking about your children, I mean the children of your neighbors or relatives!
You are not alone in hating iron for children!
After years of social struggle, you know that if you want to live a good life, you must be better than others!
In order to let your child win at the starting point, you put most of your time, energy and money into paving a broad road for him:
Bad homework? Let him attend the cram school! It is best to make up for every subject and practice again and again, and his grades will definitely improve!
Poor physical fitness? Just strengthen exercise! Lin Dan is also doing high-intensity exercise every day, which makes him a badminton elder brother! As long as he has perseverance, he can certainly do it!
Bad social interaction? Just participate in the event! As long as you find out about good talent classes and life camps, let him participate no matter how expensive! So he doesn’t have time to play games online and brush his mobile phone!
However, later you found that the result you expected did not appear.
Your child is like a walking corpse, repeating a busier life than you every day:
Go out to school before dawn, go to cram school immediately after class, go home at night and continue to do homework until late at night, five days a week, you don’t even have a chance to talk to him well;
Besides going to school, he is also busy exercising. Every time he looks tired and falls asleep on his desk, you feel so distressed.
It’s a rare holiday. In order to match the time of children’s various talent classes and life camps, family trips have been put on hold again and again, and the time between you and his parents is getting less and less.
The saddest thing is that he didn’t thank you for it!
Even began to blame you! Because from his point of view, everything you do for him comes from your vanity and fear of losing.
You just turned your unfinished dreams and regrets into invisible stones, which made him breathless.
He began to complain that you deprived him of his freedom and time and made him lose a lot of childhood fun.
Because you don’t spend much time together, you have a problem of poor communication, and there are more barriers between parents and children.
He no longer shares his thoughts with you, and you can’t understand his behavior more and more. It’s like a door between you, and your relationship is drifting away.
This is not what you want! Maybe you will feel overwhelmed, maybe you will be angry, maybe you will feel powerless, maybe you will feel desperate, and you will begin to wonder what is wrong with all this.
Stop blaming your children or yourself!
What you should do now is to calm down and ask yourself why you did all this in the first place.
Back to the original intention, you will find that all this is for his good, isn’t it? Just because you are too eager to ask, it has put a heavy pressure on your children and yourself.
After the truth comes out, you may wonder: if you give up, does it mean letting yourself and your children go?
It is better to let go than to give up!
Don’t care about the figures on the report card, whether he can become an athlete or not, and whether he can get along well with others!
You must believe that your child is absolutely capable of leading a good life! So it’s better to let him go and make his own future.
And now you only need to do one thing, that is, give him a healthy body and become his eternal supporter and the strongest backing!
